The Enneagram describes nine personality styles, each with a distinct way of seeing and engaging with the world, and explaining why you and your partner may look at life and circumstances differently. The Enneagram is one of the best tools I know of for accelerating understanding of how each of you are wired, bringing greater intimacy to the relationship.
Understanding Yourself and Each Other
Imagine what could happen if a couple not only each developed a better understanding of themselves but also of each other. If we put that in a math equation, we could say that the Enneagram is a tool that multiplies understanding to the 4th power. Do you see how significant that can be in a relationship?
Honestly, aren’t you often a mystery to yourself? Why did I do that? Why does that bother me so much? Am I the only one here feeling this? Where did that reaction come from?
And if you are a mystery to yourself, how much more is your partner a mystery to you? While your partner is not a mystery or a puzzle to solve, you can come to better understand his/her uniqueness and complexity.